This book is a guide prepared for a slave to enable her to express her love for her Master through her actions. In this case, her actions include ways of standing, sitting and speaking (ways of being) as well as ways of preparing things to please her Master in a consensual "Master/slave" relationship. The book covers formal Leather protocols as well as a range of personal rituals, such as formal dinner service. As much as anthing else, this is a book of etiquette and service within the Leather-BDSM culture.
More than a book of Protocols, this book looks into the BDSM Leather subculture as a whole. --Robert Steele
This book is a guide enabling a slave to express love for her Master through actions. --Bill Anderson
Protocols demonstrates devotion to a Master express through the slave's service. --Blake Stephens
About the Author
Dr. Rubel is an educational socioligist and researcher by training. Immediately after college he taught high school English in South-Central Los Angeles. Returning to graduate school, he earned an EdM and PhD in the area of crime prevention in public schools. After serving a stint as a Visiting Fellow at the U.S. Department of Justice, he formed a non-profit that specialized in crime prevention in public schools. He ran that firm for 17 years. In his mid-40s, Rubel decided to change careers utterly and joined a stock brokerage and future brokerage firm. Within six months, he was named CEO. He ran the company for another four years. Now, retired to pursude his passion as an erotic and fetish art photographer, he resides in Austin Texas. Rubel has been involved in the BDSM scene for a number of years, throwing himself into the literature of the field as though it was an academic study. He frequently attends BDSM weekend conferences.
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What This Book Is This book is my personal Manual of Protocol for my slave. This book guides her behavior, whether or not she is in my presence. Often, those fairly new to BDSM have a vague sense that M/s relationships are somehow better than D/s relationships and in a universe different from Top/bottom play. That is not so, it’s just that they are different. As Master Skip Chasey points out, Top/bottom play is about the physical body, Dominant/submissive play is about the mental body and Master/slave relationships are about the spiritual body. Master Steve Sampson cuts it slightly differently: “Top and bottom play is about the sexual self; dominance and submission is about energy and Master/ slave relationships are about the spiritual.” As obedience and service are at the core of the Master/slave dynamic, protocols become the means by which the slave aligns himself or herself with Master’s choices for personal service. In that light, each Master has to create protocols that enable his or her slave to express obedience through tailored service. “Slave training” is all about teaching the slave to perform that service. Now, there is a great deal of fantasy built up about Master/slave relations, particularly about slave training. Often, these fantasies have something to do with, “Do what I say, or I’ll punish you.” That line of thought is foreign to me. My slave is a person. A vibrant and intelligent person. My slave probably has a higher IQ than I do and has substantial advanced training in skill areas that support our relationship. With her slaveheart, my slave’s primary purpose is to serve me. My role, as Master, is to train her in ways of providing that service. It’s a long process, the result of which is that those who knew her before she entered the Lifestyle and still know her today find her vastly changed. I have never punished her for a lapse in Protocol. When a glitch occurs, I point it out, and we discuss it. My method of training — true, long-term modification of her behavior — rests on reinforcing positive behaviors and downplaying the glitches. I approach training in this way because if I were to keep picking on the glitches, she would become hypercritical of her own actions and become anxious when around me. So, why are these my opening paragraphs? Because this is a book written from my heart about a real, live, ongoing, dynamic Master/slave relationship.
This is a book about the Leather subculture
To my knowledge, there is no other book out there like this one. After a healthy orientation to the world of Leather, the book divides into two main parts: how the slave is to behave in public Leather events and how the slave is to prepare the evening for a formal High Leather Protocol dinner. It is written in the first person, directly guiding the slave through these activities.
I found this book interesting because often, particularly in new Master/slave relations, the slave is unsure what to do to serve the Master and the Master is unsure how he wants to be served. This book seems designed to help in those situations.
I also sense that the author is a little eccentric. Well, this relationship is certainly an unusual one. You will do well to think of this book as a Leather Etiquette book. If you're not familiar with the Leather culture, this will surely be an eye-opener.
Protocols: Handbook for the female slave
This practical handbook is not only for the service slave, but for the Master and Mistress as well. Both benefit by getting the specific directions necessary to take their Dominance/submission to the next level. This is a buffet of experiences. Pick the ones that suit you and your family. Modify, revamp and use this enlightening treatise into one family's structure to create your own. The handbook is transformational, and I highly recommend it to novices as well as those seasoned in the art of power exchange.
A good read, but not a template.
First off the book does a wonderful job of explaining various different aspects and dynamics of the lifestyle, which for readers new to the lifestyle will find very helpful. The contents draw in great detail the protocols expected of a slave under what I would call a financially stable, and secure business man. The books also lends a lot of useful ideas for those seeking to establish boundaries and topics for their own set of protocols. The formal settings and aspects help to re-establish many forgotten standards. However I do find only one flaw. For many middle class readers hoping to use the book as a reference for the basis of their own protocols, the feeling may be lacking. The back drop of the book is from the unique relationship between the author and his slave. His dynamics may vary from yours. But the book does offer many wonderful aspects and is certainly worth the reading.